One of the hardest things to do is to relinquish control.
Learning to let go: the need for control. The biggest factor of happiness for a lot of us is the control we think we have over our circumstances and situations.
Whether or not we control the atmosphere we are surrounded by at work, the power we have over familial situations, the control we have over our own emotions. It brings us anxiety and worry to not be in total control over our finances, over our children’s decisions, over our position in the workplace, and the reason for that is uncertainty.
Uncertainty will keep you up at night, take away your peace, take away the joy from the day, and leave us with nothing but stress and fear.
Our brains react to stress as they do to being attacked, we are created to try to survive. This can wrack our bodies and our minds if we let it.
This week while thinking about writing this post to you guys, Ashton and I were watching Kung Fu panda, and this quote really stuck out to me.
“Oogway: My friend, the panda will never fulfill his destiny, nor you yours until you let go of the illusion of control.
Oogway: Look at this tree, Shifu: I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time.
Shifu: But there are things we *can* control: I can control when the fruit will fall, I can control where to plant the seed: that is no illusion, Master!
Oogway: Ah, yes. But no matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.”
The Mind at Peace:
While I believe that true peace looks different for everyone, the best way I can think of is to go back to nature.
Surrounding ourselves in the untouched or plentiful surroundings of earth, it is the way we were meant to be. I myself am a believer in creation.I believe God placed us in a garden and that it was good. Even if you don’t believe this, there are so many healing benefits of being at peace in this beautiful earth.
Grounding is the practice of simply walking around outside on soil and grass with no shoes. It will reconnect and balance you with the earth, your body was not created to wear shoes, for our feet and toes to be all bundled up and scrunched together in a way that makes you to have to re-balance in a different way. A blog that I am a huge fan of (link listed below) has an insightful post on the topic of grounding and its benefits.
“Studies have proven grounding has numerous health benefits. Including, but not limited to: decreased anxiety, depression, pain, insomnia, and chronic health problems. It improves: the immune system, emotions, breathing, sleep, stress reduction, improves blood flow, and promotes calmness.” http://yourzenlife.com/grounding-what-is-it-and-why-do-we-need-it/
Taking breaks from electronic devices.
While it is good to keep up with those you love, the way we go about it today is often, and has made us a more passive aggressive sort of people.
Taking long breaks from social media’s can do wonders for the mind and spirit. It will take away the need to assert your feelings through status updated and angry comments on posts that will only stir up strife and contention. Social media can be good, taking our time away from it to refocus on ourselves and loved ones is better.
Our outlook on life and others
How we view ourselves and others will define how we react in hard and uncomfortable situations. The calm and confident person can approach hardship with grace. Knowing that what others do cannot effect their peace of mind.
The person who needs control is constantly wondering what others are doing. They make sure they aren’t stepping out of bounds, attempting to have complete control over situations. This manipulative kind of behavior can only lead to this persons own health failing because of the unnecessary stress they put on their body and mind.
We have to let go of this way of thinking.
In the end we cannot control anyone but ourselves. Trying to dictate another person’s actions is in the end futile and unsatisfying, because their will is as free as ours. They will be as they will be. (This does not pertain to self-defense or protecting yourself and others, only to situations of verbal discourse and hostility)
Domination is a lonely way of life, where harmony will fulfill us and bring peace and joy.
“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”